Where Have You Been?

So I realize it has been like months since I have last written a post. Chalk it up to Bar Prep, crashing from taking the Bar, and a wee bit of laziness now that the Bar is complete. But I have decided it is time for me to get my life back on track and part of that includes blogging again. I am going to do my best to post at least once a week (hopefully it will be more than that, but I figure I should start small lol).

So I should probably say what I have been up to. Weeeeeellllll, right now I am working at a non-profit, in a mostly non-legal capacity. We are getting ready to move the office and make some changes, so I have been trying to help out wherever I can. I am happy to just have a job. Even though I am not doing a lot of legal work per se, the people in the office are great and I really enjoy working there.

There are a couple of job opportunities that I am looking into. There is one in particular with a legal aid organization that I am hoping I can get. I love helping others (as cliche as it sounds) and I think that this position would be a great fit. I will keep y’all updated on the job hunting front.

So that is enough of me rambling lol. Until next time…

You Want Me To Sign What?!? Getting A Prenup In The 21st Century

My brain is fried from studying so I figured I would take some time and do a non-Bar related post. I read an interesting article in the ABA Journal (original article) dealing with prenups. I am sure you have heard about celebrities putting clauses in their prenups about what happens if one of the spouses commits adultery. Celebrities are now not only putting adultery clauses in their prenups, but they are also putting lifestyle clauses. From my understanding of the reading, lifestyle clauses basically spell out the rules between a couple on how to maintain their relationship. So this would include things like requiring a spouse to maintain a certain weight, look a certain way, how many times they have sex, and things of that nature. Apparently these clauses are not just being used to punish a spouse (for say cheating), but some are also meant to deter spouses from a particular behavior. Keith Urban will not get any money from Nicole Kidman if he goes back to using illegal drugs.

Interestingly enough, the article goes on to mention that it is not sure just how enforceable these clauses are, but celebrity divorce attorney Robert Wallack did have an adultery penalty that he drafted upheld in courts. I do think that the clauses involving things like adultery have a better chance of being upheld than say a clause for a spouse having to maintain a particular body weight.

I have always found the idea of prenups interesting. Logically, I understand the reasoning for them, especially if one spouse comes to the marriage really well off and the other spouse has nothing. I do not think that it is fair for the initially not so well off spouse to come in and take a big chunk of what the well off spouse had before the marriage. Now, on the flip side, I do think the initially not so well off spouse should be entitled to a chunk of what he or she helped the initially well off spouse obtain during their marriage. If the couple works together to become wealthy, then there is no reason that both parties should not benefit from that hard work.

I have heard some people say that signing a prenup is basically setting your marriage up for failure. To a certain extent, I can understand where they are coming from, but I disagree. I know marriage should be about love and you should not be thinking about what happens if the marriage ends. However, with the way the economy and job market is now, I do think this is something a couple should at least think about. To me, signing a prenup is not saying ‘I know this marriage will not work, so let me plan for what happens when it falls apart.’ A prenup is saying, ‘In case this marriage does not work, we already have a plan in place to make the split as painless as possible.’ I have worked in the area of family law and I know just how bitter and vindictive some couples can be towards each other when they are going through a divorce. Prenups are simply one way to cut some of that potential hostility out.

So what do y’all think? Are prenups setting a marriage up for disaster? Would you be offended if your fiancĂ© asked you to sign a prenup before you two got married?

My Awesome Tips For Surviving Bar Prep

So this is my third week of bar prep…which of course means I am now a bar prep pro lol. I figured I would share some of my tips for surviving bar prep.

1. You have to find a schedule that works for you. I cannot stress how important this is. Don’t worry about everyone else’s schedule. There will be some people that swear they study 16 hours a day with no breaks. One, I highly doubt that lol and two, I think they are really just trying to psyche other people out and make themselves feel like they are accomplishing something. I do not know about you, but if I tried studying 16 hours straight I would not retain half of the stuff I was studying. If you are a morning person, get up early in the morning and study something, that way when 5pm rolls around, you can call it a day. If you are a night person…well I will not say only study at night because you will likely have class in the morning and the Bar Exam is during the day, but maybe save the MBEs for later in the day when you will be more apt to retain what you review. If you have never used flashcards to study for your tests in law school, do not start now. They take a lot of time to make and they may not do you any good.

2. Go to the class if you can. The Desertion reminded me of this so I definitely wanted to make sure I mentioned this. Make sure to go to the in person classes if you can. I know it is a pain to drag yourself out of bed and go to the classes, but I think it will help you better focus there. I know for myself, I am less likely to zone out if I am sitting in the class surrounded by other people and sitting in front of someone giving me a lecture.

3. You have to make sure to take care of yourself. I know the Bar Exam is a serious test. If you do not pass it, you cannot practice law. However, if you run yourself ragged before the exam or are too sick to take the exam come exam day, it will not do you any good. Make sure to get some sleep and eat something besides fast food all the time. I know there will be some days where you have to burn the midnight oil, but if you are constantly only getting three hours of sleep, you need to go back and tweak your schedule. You do not want to spend two months studying just to oversleep on exam day because you were too tired and did not hear your alarm.

4. Reward yourself after you have been working hard. I love gifts…I love to give them and I love to receive them. I decided to reward myself today with a piece of new jewelry because I had been sticking with my schedule and I had been doing well on my MBEs. Now, I am not saying you need to go out and buy jewelry, but do something that makes you feel good every now and then. You would be surprised how much getting your favorite candy or going to see a movie can brighten up your mood.

5. Know when to push yourself and know when to take a break. We have all reached that point where we have re-read the same sentence of a fact pattern for about twenty minutes and we still cannot remember what we just read. I take that as a sign that my brain is telling me to take a break. At that point you are just spinning your wheels and probably making yourself frustrated. Go ahead and take a 10 or 15 minute break. Let your mind relax and then get back to it. However, a few words of caution, especially when it comes to the MBEs. You do need to push yourself when it comes to completing a set. On test day, you will have to do 100 MBEs in the morning and 100 MBEs in the afternoon. By the end of the morning, you will be mentally exhausted, so you need to start training your brain to handle that kind of mental exertion. Start off with a small number, I would say 30-50 MBE questions per set and then work your way up to 100. If you find yourself re-reading a fact pattern because you are not retaining the information, I would first try powering through it. If you still find yourself struggling, then I would take a break. You have to find that balance of pushing yourself and knowing when to step back.

6. Remember, it is just a test. I know this is kind of cliche, but it really is just a test. If you do not pass it on the first try, it will not be the end of the world. Do not get me wrong, it will suck, but you can survive it. There will be another opportunity to take the test. There have been plenty of people who did not pass the first time and they still turned out fine. At the end of the day, a client is not going to ask you how many times did it take you to pass the bar. All they really care about is whether or not you can help them with their legal issue.

Maybe There Is Some Method To This Madness Known As Bar Prep

So it’s about mid-way through the second week and I am finally starting to see a glimmer of light through the darkness known as Bar Prep. I have been doing a better job of completing my MBE questions and I can see positive progress…at least in the areas of Torts and Evidence. (The beast known as Contracts is still giving me a bit of a problem.) I can now understand the importance of doing so many MBE questions. While you learn, or I guess I should say refresh, the various MBE topics with the classes, the actual questions allow you to see some of intricacies that you may not learn or understand in class. It also allows you to see the different types of questions that can be asked on the MBE. That way, hopefully, none of the types of questions will blindside you when you finally get to the test. Is anyone else seeing some light?

Unlocking Can Get You Locked Up

I ran across a very interesting tweet from @SoloPracticeU today. Apparently, it is illegal for a person to unlock (which is different from jailbreak) his/her phone. A first time offense can lead to a fine of up to $500,000, five years imprisonment, or both. Repeat offenders can be fined up to $1,000,000, up to 10 years imprisonment, or both. Now there are some exceptions…like if you own the copyrights of the software on the phone or if you buy the phone for the non-contract price.

I am not sure how often this rule will be enforced. It may be like the Napster issue where millions did it and only a few were prosecuted. I will have to follow this issue and see how it plays out. What do y’all think?

Chapter 1: Law School is Now Complete

As of 11:45am yesterday morning, I am the proud owner of my Juris Doctor (J.D.) degree. I have done my time and can now proudly call myself a law school graduate. It seems like just yesterday, or at least last week, that I was sitting in orientation and trying to understand just what I had gotten myself into. I had moved two states away to attend law school in a place where I knew no one.

Law school was like nothing I have ever experienced. It was different from college in that you could not just sit in class and become invisible. Professors made an effort, especially during your first year, to call on every student and subject him/her to the infamous Socratic Method. For those who fear public speaking (like break out in a cold sweat if they have to speak in public), the Socratic Method is a horrid dreadful thing. I am one of the fearful. But you know, I survived it. I even managed to say a few intelligent things and not come off as a totally dummy. I have met some great friends and have had the opportunity to do things that I never would have imagined myself doing.

All in all, I have enjoyed my journey through law school…both the ups and the downs. As this one chapter closes, I move on to the next…the monster known as the Bar Exam. It is basically a two day test that I will be studying for for about two months. While I am not looking forward to taking the test, I am looking forward to what comes after I pass. I will finally be able to do what I have been studying the past three years…help others through the practice of law.